To be married means different things to different people. To me, it will mean a key accomplishment in life. It will mean following in the legal steps of sharing a life with another of the opposite sex.
What I have learned to live with is the pressure of still being single but not letting social occurrences and other variables dictate WHEN I get married. Having said that, all concerned well-wishers and observers are duly appreciated.
Some social occurrences as above stated are that colleagues have and are getting married. Some attaining ‘veteran’ status right there on the field that you are yet to start playing on – the daddies among them that is.
Even with that, when a friend posts about their upcoming marriage, it is a source of collective joy. The already married ones are happy to have another on board whiles the bachelors hope, plan and pray for their time. Both parties go down the ‘congrats’ lane with cheer and undoubtedly a heart of goodwill.
On my second vacation (June 2018) it was a pleasurable pleasure to note that a colleague was getting married whiles I would be around. I savored that day and look forward to it.
It 100% lived up to the billing. From the sermon at the church, the exchange of vows, the fans we gave him much to the priest’s disapproval and the catching up we did at the reception, it was most exciting to see and to interact with colleagues from way back.
Shocked! We seem to be listening to this guy, very attentively so, more often than not, he dey blow ....
Now, onto WhatsApp. Three weeks after his marriage, our most current groom makes a passing comment on whatsapp and it elicits a medley call it cocktail of positive vibes from especially the married folks. Below is an unedited expression of views:
Colleague 1: Mr. Man, how is married life?
Mr. Man: Charlie…someway…you ppl no tell we the truth
Colleague 1: Way truth, say u go cut down on boyz boyz outing then you for chop for house or the outing for include wifeee or say u for buy plenty things fie house or u for call frequently to check on her. Hahahahahahahah. Welcome man.
Colleague 2 to colleague 1: Thumbs up!
Colleague 3: Charlie enjoy the ignorance part. It a bliss
Colleague 4: Mr Man enjoy it….. marriage is good. The good part is more dan wat u hv not been told.
Colleague 5: But shouldest thou marry, thou hast not sinned; and if a virgin marry, she hath not sinned. Yet such shall have tribulation in the flesh; and I would spare you. 1 Cor. 7:28. Tribulations in the flesh is inseparably connected with mortality. But you are capable of enduring them via Christ who strengthens you. Only pray with her every morning and last thing before u both sleep. It’s well my brother.
Mr. Man: E good…I no regret again
Colleague 5: Glory be to God
My conclusions:
1. The lectures of and living "the marriage" are two different things - having said that, you are free to enter with views and expectations though.
2. Even if for a day, you must recognize that persons who live in / have lived in marriages have something to share.
3. Marriage projects the concept of life, "sweet and bitter" Colleague 4 makes that point "Man enjoy it….. marriage is good. The good part is more dan wat u hv not been told."
4. There is a learning and un-learning process for newly marrieds. Learn new reality and step off the old actuality.
4. There is a learning and un-learning process for newly marrieds. Learn new reality and step off the old actuality.
Certainly, one day shall we send across our dates - dates to be saved - insha Allah.
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